26 Monday Mar 2012
Dramatic picture, isn’t it? ;)
Last week was a horrible week for my poor teeth. I had to go to the dentist again to remove dental plaque. Yuk! I couldn’t brush my teeth for almost two weeks after I had the tooth pulled out, and to say it kindly: my breath was not the best last week. haha!
But today it feels so much better. They told me to buy an electric toothbrush, I hope it helps, because tooth picks and fluoride flush didn’t. Of course I bought a pink/purple one :) Smiiiiiiile
25 Sunday Mar 2012
We found these flowers today :)
What will happen if you eat no sugar for a week? You’ll probably feel a lot better.
I wrote two days, because I think it’s better to take one step at the time :). Honestly, there is sugar in everything. Yesterday we bought a bottle of sparkling water, and thought it tasted a bit sweet, we read the table of contents (is that what you call it?) and it was sugar in the d**n water. Why?
I know it’s sugar in juice (even though no sugar is added) and there’s sugar in fruit. But what I mean is, I want to avoid things with added sugar in it for a couple of days. Ex. cookies, candy, yoghurt etc.
I’ll give it a try :) this is also fun because I have to find some healthy snacks as alternatives to other things.
17 Saturday Mar 2012
The good thing with house constructions (in this case) is that you can lean out the window, and it’s not scary at all, ha ha!
Today is Saturday, so you can buy “lördagsgodis” (saturday candy). Not good for your teeth, but once a week (or twice) tha’s ok (if you ask me). I rinse my mouth with fluoride (flux) every day (because my dentist told me, and because I don’t dare not to after the horrible dry socket story.. ha ha!). Last week I asked myself, and Erik, why they don’t make smaller bottle with fluoride rinse so you can take them with you. He said “I think that is because people who rinse their mouths with fluoride, NEVER go anywhere” Ha ha! (I googled it a minute ago, and there’s a smaller bottle :) Dah!)
11 Sunday Mar 2012
I love to see when the sun goes up, I love that it’s quiet, sometimes I really like to eat breakfast alone.
If it wasn’t for that Erik still is sleeping I would take a walk, but I think he would get a heart attack if he woke up and I wasn’t here (note: I could write a note, or send him a text, but I think it’s still cold outside and I think I prefer to stay inside, but don’t tell anyone ;) ). And by the way, I can wait for an hour. Something I can’t wait for though, is the spring and summer..:)
Just have to add that I really like my new pyjamas pants, my favorite color :)
07 Wednesday Mar 2012
And now I’m posting about food again, ha ha! At least it’s not about cupcakes ;)Last week me made this dish which actually turned out to be great! We had some vegetables in the fridge (tomatoes, mushrooms, leeks, and canned olives (black)). We chopped the vegetables, and fried them just a little (with olive oil and 1 tsp of dried thyme). We used cod, put it on a piece of aluminium foil, put the vegetables on top of the fish, added just a hint of olive oil, seasoned with salt and pepper.. put it in the oven for about 25 minutes, and done! :) here served with mashed potatoes.
05 Monday Mar 2012
I was bored today, so I had my hair cut. Logical, isn’t it? ha ha! They took of quite a bit, but it felt good to get rid of the damaged ends. It doesn’t look very different.. I don’t know if I should have told her to cut bangs (is that how you say it?).. anyways.. if I use volume mousse and then blow dry it.. I’ll get more volume :)
29 Wednesday Feb 2012
Today was the first day in one and a half week that I didn’t have extreme pain. Last Sunday my face was so swollen I had to call the dentist. I got antibiotics, but on Monday it was even worse! I went there again and they packed it with some kind of antibiotics thing, AND told me if this wasn’t helping I had to go to the hospital. (no thank you). Today I was able to brush my teeth, thank god! Pain killers actually help now, and I can open my mouth so much that I can eat soft things. You never know if it’ll get worse again, but I’m so thankful if I’ll be able to sleep more than five hours tonight..
To celebrate, I made a cake :) chocolate and vanilla sponge cake. In Sweden we call it tiger cake ;) I liked it, Erik liked it.
Do you know what? Spring is in the air!! :)
20 Monday Feb 2012
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A couple of weeks ago I discovered a wisdom tooth had popped up, just a little.. AND that there was a black spot on it! I hat to go to the dentist, I had a huch – the tooth had to be pulled out. I was right.
Today they pulled it out, it wasn’t that bad. BUT the thought that hit me was: I have had five teeth pulled out before this one, that was horrible, did my (the) dentist (I went to before) really know what he was doing? A pretty interesting thought.
Anyways, it hurts. It was surgery so they removed the skin and everything, gross!!! They’ll remove the stitches in two weeks. I also got a picture of the tooth, which I won’t show you ;) Because that’s discusting ha ha!
Thank god it’s over (at least I hope so) and thanks so much to the incredibly good dentist! Ah, what relief!
Let’s call that tooth my “sweet tooth” – I’ll cut down on sugar from now on!
09 Friday Sep 2011
Sometimes we (read I) need to STOP! and think about what we are doing. I guess that was what I did last week, or the week before. Something happened that made me think: is this really how I want things to be like? This is kind of a boring way to start a post, so now I’ll write about the fun stuff:
I have said “no” to some extra jobs I had before, so no more babysitting or working in an old people’s home. This means I’ll have more time over, which I honestly need to feel well. The last week has been kind of very good. I have had time to be at home, I have watched tv! I have had time for cooking, I have taken walks, slept a little bit longer (I still love waking up early ha ha!), I have taken time to think, and I have had time alone (sometimes I need that, or I think everyone needs that.. it’s somehow good to be alone sometimes). And I have spent time with people I like! I have learned new things, and I’ve had the opportunity to learn other people things too.
I had a blogg-post published on yourlife.nu (thanks to you who found it for me, because I had NO IDEA about it! ha ha! It kind of made my day!) (unfortunately it’s not viewable anymore).
Then I started blogging again, honestly it feels good. The last 9 months have been kind of dazing because I’ve reassessed many things, thanks for that (but I’m back now). The last months I have worked too much, but the only one I can blame for that is myself. I’ve learned my lesson, again. There is that balance you have to find between work and free-time and if you can’t find some kind of balance things don’t feel good. Things don’t smell as good, they don’t taste as good, and noting feels as good as it actually can do if you don’t find that balance. Awareness is always the first step towards a change, it also means responsibility, but I like to be responsible ha ha!
I feels like I have eaten a little too much unhealthy stuff during the last months too, too little fruit for example. Today I had a grapefruit :) I like grapefruits. Antioxidants and vitamins are good for you!
Hope you all will have a really good weekend! I’ve decided to have a really good Friday and tomorrow I’m going to see my family (it was at least 3 months since last time) I hope the trains will be on time ;)
20 Sunday Mar 2011
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This was the most boring day ever, until something happened, and I decided to go out running. That must have been meant to be. 2 years ago I couldn’t even run 5oo m, I’m not kidding. Today I ran 4km and I didn’t stop. usually that takes me 24 minutes – that’s no good!! and my goal is 5km 28min. Today those 4km took me 22 min to run = 2 min!!!! better than last time (which was 2 days ago!). I use sportstracker (it uses the GPS) on my cell phone, and then it’s just to upload and you can see the map too, and all the stats – I love!
A hint of motivation, some anger, a pitch dark sky, some happiness, and pretty cold weather makes a good run! This could mean that in one month 4km = 21 min which also would mean that 5km = 29 min, which is good! and I have 4,5 months to make 29 min 28 min. This weekend (next weekend) I’m going to Varberg to see my cousins, my grandma and some other people, I’m so happy/bored right now that I’m thinking about going there tomorrow and stay until early Wednesday. I have Tuesday and Thursday off, how could that be possible!?
17 Thursday Feb 2011
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I spent some money today :). I bought the skirt, and the other clothes that I’m wearing, not the pants.. I don’t know if I should return the pink “t-shirt”. Then I found this bag, it kind of suits my personality. LAt week when I had my hair cut I got the advice to buy these products from Björn Axen , they are really good – a volume mousse, and a root lift spray. I also bought a color shampoo, everyone should try that, I want to get back to my natural color that is just a little bit lighter than the color I have today so this shampoo is great (you can wash your hair twice before the color disappears). We also have to read that book in school, must be something wrong because it sounds interesting haha! I’m also planning to read a book called: Think and Grow Rich. Maybe after I have read that book, I don’t have to buy clothes on H&M, lol!
01 Tuesday Feb 2011
I have got this annoying cough, and it won’t disappear. Singing frightened it away for a couple of minutes :). It sounds terrible. I went to the doctor who said I looked just healthy, she told me to go home. But just because I feel good doesn’t mean I like to cough 24/7, my throat has been sore for a week, it makes me nauseous, but they don’t do anything if you don’t have fever. One way of seeing it, I guess people today just don’t like to be ill, and want to get well too quick. I have to be patient. :)
30 Sunday Jan 2011
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Yepp that’s true, at least according to the scales. I got this receipt. It says: I need to eat ~1200 kcal/day if I want to remain in this shape. Ok, haha! that sounds like a little. I thought 2000 kcal was good. My BMI =20 which was good too. The scary part is that I have lost 4 kg since Christmas, isn’t that pretty much? I spent 1 1/2 week at my parents place and thought I would die. Normally I never eat pork or beef, but.. hrmm.. no explanation needed (familes sometimes try to feed yo with everything). When I came home I felt fat and not in shape, but didn’t think so much about that . I don’t have a bathroom scale at home, so it was kind of a shock. Doesn’t matter because I feel better :).
Ok, a short explanation to the pictures. I “signed up” because I wanted to “work” a little. So what we did was that we.. my gosh it’s hard to explain. You can see the white “t-shirts” ok, all of us were wearing them. It was a wellness/beauty event – and during those days we represented ”The company” (that I bought the course from that I’m currently taking). You could do like a test to calculate your “real” age, and pretty much everyone wanted to do that – people from our team was doing the tests/analyses. I was holding 3 presentations, and was coaching people (we did stress and happiness-tests). We are now allowed to attend a course in mindfulness for free (at least that is what I think). Believe me there was alot a lot of work behind the organization of everything, and I guess it took a lot of time, and meant hard work. It was alos many visitors, at least on the second day (Saturday)
It was interesting to meet all the people, both the other ones in the “team”, but also all the other people we met. Anyways, together we were very good, no doubt, ha ha! (My problem is that I can get kind of bitchy haha! Not very funny. And what I don’t like is when people don’t tell me I am. That’s the scariest part. Ha ha! I want to know when I have done something wrong.)I’m amazed that the coaching went so well. People said it was rewarding and that’s always fun to hear.
It was kind of fun to look around and see what the other companies there were selling.
22 Saturday Jan 2011
Today I read this article in the news paper. It says that people from the home-help service have time to cook, I wonder if they do. We don’t talk about private owned companies. Before it worked like this: The old people either got 7 boxes of food, fresh, to put in the fridge, so they could put it in the microwave (the home-help people did that), or they got one dish every day, and then it was hot – they brought it there in a cool box. It was nothing wrong with that food. And how do I know that? Because I have worked in different home care units since I was 17, and I’m 24 now. My grandma also had this kind of food service while she still was living “at home”.
OK, this is what I know. When you have this kind of job you barely have time to eat your own lunch, You start at 7AM, and you go home at 4PM, if you’re lucky. During those 9 hours you walk, walk and walk, you run, between the apartments. If you drive, it’s worse. We went in, put the food in the microwave, put it on the table, went out, drove to the net person – pretend that you have 20 people to go to, they want their food served between 12:00 and 12:45, 13:00 is LATE! it means you are 4 people, you have 3 cars, you should visit 20 people, some of them might be in bed when you come, or want to go to the bathroom. It takes time.
In this article they say: they’ll have time, and we see no problem with this. No problem. So then I though, oh it’s about frying an egg. NO it says. We are not talking about housewife work – MAYBE they want pork chops, or something similar!!! HOW LONG TIME does it take to prepare something like that, and fry that meat, and serve it! I mean to boil potatoes takes 20 minutes. In the next paragraph they explain that shopping groceries is included (that takes time). But if they rather want something from a restaurant, that’s ok. The employees will buy the food, and bring it to the old people. OK??
So if we say they have time, they have all ingredients at home, that would be fine? What I think about is hygiene. You start your day with helping people up from their beds, you help them in the bathroom, more than you want to. Then after having helped someone in the bathroom, you go to the next apartment to cook someone’s lunch? You wear the same clothes! That’s just gross. If this is how it should work, people are going to fall ill. Believe me.
Another aspect of this is that when the old people got those pre-made lunch boxes, they got all the vitamins and minerals they need. It was not bad food. They also got healthy stuff, things that are good for people in their age, and especially done for some of them that had had strokes etc. A restaurant can’t do 30 different dishes just because you ask them to. An alternative, as they say in the article, is that the old people can buy frozen food from the grocery store. In Sweden the frozen food consists lots of fat and most of the stuff is deep-fried, if you have diabetes, or heart problems that is not good to deep-fried food, that is high in sugar, and fat and low in fibers. I wonder how this will end?
18 Tuesday Jan 2011
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coaching, goal, health, life, motivation, transactional analysis
In the other posts we have been discussing, how you can “think” effectively, how you can set realistic goals, and how you can motivate yourself to reach them (you can see the other posts if you click on coaching in categories to the right). In this post we’ll go through some things that may effect: why you don’t reach your goals.
Just because I want to explain this in an easy way, I’ll give you an example. I like sweet things, like muffins, cookies and such. Hmm.. but I know that it’s not good for me. And honestly I feel so much better without it, but it tastes good! And in some way it would be very boring without it. Never start a sentence with And, I know.. anyways I have thought about this for years, but nothing ever happens. I say to myself: I need to change this, but do you think I do?
First, it could be motivation: Are you motivated to reach your goal? Do you want to reach it, can you see yourself when you have don that, how does that feel? To find motivation can be easy, or harder. One way is to write down you goal, as we have said earlier, but there are other ways. It’s always better to be two, or more. Did you have the support you needed? Or rather, did you ask for support. How can support you towards your goal? It’s not wrong to ask for help, and if you don’t ask you can’t know. Maybe someone wants the same thing as you. Break down the big goal, into smaller goals – through this you can feel the improvement easier.. there are many ways.. can you come up with something more?
Back to the question WHY? This might sound simple, but in some way it’s true. If you could choose between a bar of chocolate and an apple, what would you choose if you LOVED chocolate. The answer is pretty simple, I guess. That’s the thing; our brain constantly answers the questions we ask ex. Which way is the shortest way through the city, can I cross the street now etc. But we don’t think about it, not very often.
When we can see the apple and the chocolate, we ask our brain: which one do I want. (Deep inside you want the chocolate) and the brain is inside us right haha! So we take the chocolate. It’s like when we want to lose weight, what do you prefer: lying in the couch or exercising. The conclusion is: We do what we feel is the best alternative, for the moment.
According to theories based on transactional analysis, there can be a conflict between your Adult and Child. The Adult is the rational “part” of you that’s not affected from the past (things your parents have told you about what’s right or wrong, or “this is how you should do it”) and the Child is more spontaneous and want something “now”. This means a part of you says: I know this is the best way, based on facts experiences etc. But the other part of you says: I want chocolate, and I want it now. Of course we want things now, that’s natural.
If we make a conclusion we can say that this is a conflict. How do we solve this? There are many ways, and because we shouldn’t go too deep, we could ask ourselves some questions. What do I do when I have a conflict with someone I know? How do you solve it? What do you think about conflicts? Are you the one who likes to fight or do you rather say “yes”, to get it over and done with? Remember the last conflict you had that you (and the other person) solved – you came to a resolution and left the conflict with a good feeling, at least positive.
How are we going to solve this conflict, and how can both parts be satisfied. If we go back to what we said about the goal (it should be positive, realistic, and concrete) is your goal realistic?
• Do you have the time, money, energy to do all the things you have to do?
• How does you plan look like? Is you plan realistic?
• What date did you set as your “finish date”. Remember feedback is important, there is no failure, only results – AND we can improve results AND become winners! Through feedback we can see what we have to do better, and learn from things that haven’t worked so well.
• How much do you want this, on a scale from 1-10. (Say 10!!!!!)
• How can you compromise?
• What do you have to cut down on? Write a list from the beginning, then you’ll be prepared.
• When you have reached your goal, what would that mean for you?
Remember, changes is not always easy. Two things guide people in life, Fear and Love. Changes often involve fear, don’t they? To set a goal means you want to improve and change something, and that’s not always easy. But how is it going to be like when you have reached your goal? It’s not about convincing yourself, to trick yourself that this is what you want – but to find a solution that feels good. Some people like to do a huge change, and that’s it. Some rather take one step at the time. If we go back to the example about eating sweet things; there is a difference between saying I won’t eat anything sweet at all, and this week I’ll eat one thing (candy etc.) less than last week. It’s a process about learning – it’s hard to learn the name of every country in the world on one day, but it’s possible to learn 10 – capitals included ;). If you try to learn them all, it’s easy to forget all of it, but if you learn 10 of them – the chance is bigger you’ll remember.
14 Friday Jan 2011
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So there we are, you have just come home from some kind of even and you are full of energy, if this event was about health or wellness you want to start exercising, eat healthier or feel better. After two weeks, what has happened? We need to catch that motivation while it’s piping hot. Even though it might sound simple, it often works. Motivation, or what motivates people is a huge area, but sometimes it’s better to take one step at a time, and make it simple.
In the post on how you can set realistic goals we said that a good goal formulation should have three components. It should be positive, realistic, and concrete. If we keep that in mind for just a minute, you’ll see how we can use that to boost our motivation.
Believe it or not, but through writing down our goals, or formulating them in a better way we can create motivation. If we set goals we can:
Ok, if we formulate our goals, and make them positive, realistic and concrete we have taken one step. There are a couple of theories(Martin Fishbein’s expectancy theory, and Vroom’s expectancy theory) that deals with motivation, and if we combine them with what we said about the goal formulation can we easier see the “pattern”:
If we value what we strive for, and if we believe that what we do will lead us to our goals, we can increase our motivation. A positive goal is something we value, something we want, and something that’s going to make us feel better etc. A goal that’s realistic is something that we can manage, something we can reach – the same thing as saying that what we do is going to lead us forward. If we also make our goal formulation concrete – if we specify more exact what we want, when we want to have reached it, and how we know we have reached our goal, we have some of the ingredients to motivation.
So when we clarify to ourselves what we want, made it into a working goal formulation, we have taken the first step. I don’t like to say “don’t”, but don’t write it down (your goal formulation) on a post-it note just to put it behind your couch. Write it down on a post card, preferably with a nice picture on, or on a colored piece of paper, use a pen you like, and hang it where you can see it. So where is that? is it on your mirror, on the wall in your office, or do you want to put it on the kitchen table?
08 Saturday Jan 2011
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Sometimes we think about doing things, but we never get there. Why? The answers are probably many, but another question you can ask yourself is: What can I do next time to do it better? One of the things could be to set a realistic goal, a goal you want to reach.
Ok, you want something. Think about what you want and try to put that together in a sentence. It might have to do with your health, a trip you want to make etc. Try to remember that.
One way of seeing this is: Pretend that you’re standing on the ground and there’s a big hole in front of you. On the other side of that hole, is your goal. There is like a wooden sign there, and it says goal on it. Everything in between you and that sign is what you have to do to reach your goal.
You might think, eehh!? But why do I need to set a goal. Have you ever driven for 5 hours? Did you remember how it felt like to have arrived? Pretend that you drove for 5 hours, but you didn’t think of where you wanted to go. Is there a difference? Which of these alternatives feels better? There could of course be an alternative like: I want to drive for 5 hours to see things I’ve never seen before, but that’s different, isn’t it?
So when you stand there on one side of the hole, and you want to the other side, you can’t leave 10% of yourself on that side. 100% of you have to be on the “goal side” if you want to reach it. This might sound weird. But if you tell 100% of your cells that THIS is what I want to do. You will also have all your cells with you. That is also what we need.
Sometimes our brain plays a trick on us. As I have written before. Our brain doesn’t understand the word Not. Ex: Do not think about candy. You think about candy anyway, because you have to think about candy first, before you do not think about it. Ok.
Next step is to formulate your goal so you’ll have 100% of your cells with you. There are three qualities a good goal formulation should have. It should be:
• Positive – be something you actually want, YOU want, not your mother, or boyfriend, husband etc. Something that will make you feel better, something that’s good for you.
• Realistic – be something you actually can manage, do. To take a step on the moon might not be realistic, but don’t be too sceptical either, it shouldn’t be too easy. Think: Have anyone like me done this before? If yes, go for it!
• Concrete – you should be able to say when you have reached your goal. It’s a difference between saying, I want to run faster, and I want to run 5km in 30 min. You can’t measure when you run faster, because when you can run faster, you probably can run even faster.
So do you remember what you thought of a couple of minutes ago, if you thought of something you want to accomplish. Try and see if it passes these qualities. Ex: If I said I won’t eat any candy for one week. That might not be a very good formulated goal. But if I instead said: For one week I’ll eat food that is healthy for me. That would be better. That would be what you tell your brain, and all your cells. Is it positive? If you want it yes, is it realistic? are you going to have money to buy the food, time to cook, time to prepare and plan everything? If yes.. yes it works. Is it concrete? Define for yourself what healthy food is for you, and yes it’s concrete – we are talking about one week.
When you have written down your “goal”, because that’s the best thing to do, you have already taken the first step to reach it. Isn’t that good?
This is going to be continued with a part on how you can find the motivation to reach your goal, and one part on what you can do if you try and try, but never get there (this pretty much has to do with the fact that sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do).
And while I’m writing I could as well write something about something else, so if someone wants to know anything I might know. Or if you have like a specific question about something concerning these kinds of topics, feel free to tell me, and I’ll try to answer, even though my English could be better. I need to use everything I have learned during the last couple of years. It feels like my head is full..lol!
06 Thursday Jan 2011
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Ok, sometimes (at least I do this) you think about something, but it feels like you get nowhere! Thinking about old stuff is never good, and neither is it good fo you to carry around thing that you could leave behind.
First: Set a goal. When you set a goal, not only you, but also your brain understands what’s going on. Sometimes our brain just don’t – like when we say to ourselves: I won’t eat any candy this week. = Our brain only hears – I eat candy this week (not grammatically correct, I know). I guess we know how this ends. We eat candy.You can try it yourself if you don’t believe me: Do not think of a pink elephant. Did you think of your aunt or a pink elephant?
If we set clear goals, that are formulated in a “positive” way – something we want (that’s positive for us) – when no Not, No- etc. words are used (at least not too much).
Now I’ll be a little bit blunt, and show you an example, this is a way of self-coaching when you “speak” to yourself when you write it down. This means you set a goal for what you want in the end of the conversation with yourself. An example could be: I want to find three new ideas when it comes to blah blah (whatever it’s about), I want to decide what to do next in my relationships with X, OR the best area for this kind self-coaching – to take a tour around the city. What do I mean with that? Pretend that you are in a city you have never been to before, i.e. Paris. Either you can decide: I want to go to the Eifel Tower, or I want to take a tour in the city and see things a tourist never would see. That’s the point, you would see (make it visible for yourself) things you never would have seen otherwise (if you just went to the Eifel Tower, or took a guided tour).. “If you do what you always have done, you will get what you always have gotten” ;)
You basically ask yourself questions and give yourself the answers.
So Let’s start:
What do you want to talk about today?
- I’m angry because I can’t understand what I’m doing. I’m soo angry, that it feels like I can’t even write, and now it feels even worse..argg! I’m angry with myself.
What is it that makes you angry?
The way I behave, now I feel sad.. and that makes me angry too..
Ok, so you’re feeling angry, and I guess that’s not the feeling you want to have, how would you want it to be like?
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Now I feel that it’s getting a bit personal, haha! But this can me quite effective. Write down, not only what you think , but also what you feel. Remember we often think something before we feel it, but in spite of that we forget what we really feel. That was not a very good explanation, but sometimes one feeling can hide another, like anger can hide fear or sadness..
(If you want to read the rest: read my password protected post ;))
06 Monday Dec 2010
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conversation, counseling, counselor, health, theraphy, well being
Hello everyone!
Currently I’m planning for a 2 year “assignment” for the conversational therapist course that I’m taking. I’m not a mind reader, but I want to know what people think. This basically means I’m listening to what you’re saying and takes that into account when I’m planning my assignment.
I’m the youngest in my class, but in spite of that I want people to think that I’m serious with what I’m doing. I don’t want to “grow” a hobby like I have understood that many want.
I have 1 1/2 year and I need 60 client hours. I have found a place where you can rent rooms per hour, and that is the kind of solution I need. I also have to charge the “clients”.
The course has its base in transactional analysis, but also in cognitive behaviour “therapy”. I want to focus on people who want to do changes in their lives, or feels that they want to feel better, to create better relationships or find ways out of old habits.
What I feel that I don’t know much about is (I know people have different opinions). Let’s pretend that you want counseling:
How would you feel about contacting a counselor? Would you rather send an e-mail or phone? What would you expect? If you saw an ad from a company that offered counseling what would you want to read in that ad? ..
Thank you so much!
18 Monday Oct 2010
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Did you know this (it might sound very natural, but..).. researches did tests on people who had gone through difficult situations, such as physical abuse, traumatic accidents, family tragedies etc. They wanted to see if to talk to someone about it helped. They took a blood sample before and after the session, and it showed that after the session, the people had an enhanced immune system functioning. The people who talked to someone (some didn’t) had 50% fewer visits to a health care centre (during the 6 following months), compared with the other test group.
Traumatic experiences lead to stress, but to talk to someone reduces stress. This is because of the ”shared emotions”, and that is just the thing, isn’t that weird. It’s good to share emotions. When we share emotions or seek social support, we get a higher “level” of endorphins (our body’s morphine) which also reduces pain. Another interesting part in this is that they found that instead of talking about whatever had happened, they let some people write about the traumatic event instead. One month later they found that the people who wrote about the event (in comparison with the ones who did nothing) was less stressed and “depressed” after a month.
The more aroused the people became when writing about the event, the healthier they were, both physically and psychologically after a month. Isn’t that strange too? In that case, if you can write something down and really be emotionally involved, it’s something good if you have been through some kind of stressing situation. The thing is that when we are exposed to something when writing/talking that exposure allows extinction to occur – and that means reducing the stimuli’s emotional impact, and we are not as stressed as we would have been if we hadn’t talked written about the event.
I think though that I would like to add that if you eally have been through something traumatic it’s important to talk to the “right” person, someone proffessional. I think that it’s better to do that early, than to wait and just think that everything is going to be all right. Sometimes we do that, but we don’t have to be so good at everything all the time. To ask someone for help is nothing wrong.
